Job searching in today’s climate is hard. If you are geographically-bound, it becomes even more challenging to land that dream job, or any job for that matter.
Moving beyond the defeat of not getting the job. This seems to be a theme of many of my clients lately. They keep applying, prepping for the job interview, interviewing and then… nothing happens. And they are left feeling defeated, hopeless, stuck, angry, wondering what went wrong, why didn’t they like me, why am I not good enough, etc.
I remember when I started my career in higher education and having a work history that included working in university housing served as a gateway to various positions in student affairs. What happened? When did it all change? Why is it so hard to obtain that next level position or the “dream job.”
How do you keep going when you keep hearing NO?!
Life is not for the faint of heart. Very few of us get through it without experiencing our fair share of disappointment, frustration and heartache.
When things get rough and you feel like giving up on landing that dream job, ask yourself a few important questions (jot down these answers):
· Why are you applying for the specific job you are applying for?
· Do you meet the qualifications? Or are you trying to stretch your experience and gain more skills?
· Are you running from your current position? Or have you done everything you could do at the institution?
· Have you written down your preferred work environment that would allow you to thrive?
Don’t ignore this exercise. Your list matters!!!!!!!!!!!! It’s like dating. You wouldn’t just date the first person you meet. You would have a list of characteristics your ideal mate would have. And the list gets longer after every failed relationship because you learned just a little bit more about what will and won’t cut it.
So, you should have a list for your job search. At the end of the day, you don’t want a career that you love. Just as you don’t want any ol’ partner, you want someone you can grow old with.
Have you ever been set up on a blind date and wondered what your friends were thinking? The moment you sat down across from the other person, you knew instantly that the date was going to be a long one and you would have to really fake it to make it look like you were interested.
This happens in interviews, too. You know right away whether or not this is the right job for you. So, your list matters.
Job hunting takes patience, but it’s okay to be picky. Don’t just apply to any ol’ job because you liked the title and the salary because if that’s why you are applying you may wind up with a job that seems impressive to your loved ones, but leaves you feeling bored and empty. And then you are like everyone else stuck in the rat race stuck in a job you hate for 8hrs a day, 40hrs a week, 180hrs a month and 2000hrs a year. That is a very long time to be bored and unfulfilled.
Debra Y. Griffith
Dean of Student Equity and Success at West Valley Community College
Consultant | Speaker | Coach |Strategist |Trainer